Spouse Saturday

Today is my wife's birthday. She is finally the big 30. Obviously a milestone event and one which I should do something special for her. Something for her to remember.

With this goal in mind, and fully realizing I am not of my wife's demographic(stay at home mom with four kids under the age of five), I contacted several other stay at home mom's and asked for their input. Would they rather have a surprise party or a day without kids? Overwhelmingly, the no kids option was the top choice.

I originally thought about taking my wife out of town for the night to make it really special. Then I realized that we would be going out of town for 3 nights in June for our 10 year anniversary, and the budget constraints would not allow me to do so.

So then I was struck by inspiration. My wife's love language is Acts of Service. So I plan on becoming child free around lunch, and then offering my wife the opportunity to pick whatever she wants done around the house.

After almost 10 years of marriage, one thing is certain. What makes my wife happy, and what makes me happy are two different things. My job is and needs to be to find what makes me wife happy and do that.

That is what selfless love is about. Am I a pro? Haha, not yet, but I am working on it. Why? Because this is the legacy I want to leave my kids. A loving home that they can model for their kids, my grand kids.